Dear Huddie

Dear Huddie: On Understanding the Question

March 15, 2013

Back for installment five of Dear Huddie – a bi-weekly column to assist engineer job hunters in their pursuit of happiness.

March Madness is creeping up on us, plenty of buzzer beaters coming our way. But one thing is for sure – not all decisions come down to the final shot with no time on the clock. In the job-hunt world we have all the time we need to prepare – keep that in mind when you are preparing to take that shot!

Dear Huddie –

No question – just a  story I thought you might want to pass on…

Signed – Father of the Year!

Well Huddie, I took the family to the farm a few years back – at that time my youngest was five years old. We were able to see a bunch of horses, young horse, mares, mares in foal and even a few geldings that were past their racing prime. As I am walking with my five year old through one of the paddocks he looked up at me and said “Dad, what is sex?”

My wife and I had agreed that we never wanted to shield our kids from the truth, if they had questions we wanted to answer them honestly – but boy did our son throw a fastball down the middle on this one! I hummed and ha ‘d and finally decided to be straight with him – “son, sex is when a man and a woman love each other and decide they want to have a baby together, they have sex in order to have children.”  I felt this was the fairest answer I could give; after all, he was only five. He seemed to accept that answer, but as a father I had to ask him – “Son, who mentioned sex to you?”

“No one dad, I just saw a signs on the stalls in the barn either saying ‘SEX – M’ or ‘SEX – F’ and did not know what it meant!”

Ya see folks, sometimes it’s best to understand the question fully before answering. I was once forced to take a week long class called “Seven Habits of Highly Successful People” – if you get a chance, go ahead and pass on that!  Just kidding Stephen Covey, you know we love you!  In any event, one of the seven habits is “Seek first to Understand, then to be understood.”

Keep that in mind if when you go into that next interview!

That’s it for now, next installment in two weeks – don’t forget to send your Dear Huddie questions to